Have you heard the saying that music is the soundtrack to the scenes of our everyday lives? Well, this is probably true. For some people, music is a crucial part of their lives. And of course, in this way, it also has an effect on their choice of partner. 

Even if you are not that much a music fan, common music tastes can become the linking element between you and your soulmate. Many people even have different kinds of music to describe a crucial aspect of their relationship. Some music you associate with the beginning, and some – with the end of your relationship. But do you believe that music can make us choose one partner instead of another? We try to explore that today. 

Do Your Music Preferences Matter in Dating?

If you check any reliable dating site in New York, it has most likely introduced synchronization with Spotify and Apple Music accounts or has included any other option to share music tastes. So now you don’t have to guess whether your potential date has the same tastes or not. 

The thing is many users indeed won’t “like” a partner if he or she has very strange music tastes. But at the same time, users say that music similarities can’t become the key factor in choosing someone. If you don’t like everything else in the personality, then music preferences won’t save the person from banning. 

Why Should Dating Apps Care About Music Preferences?

Though not every person will reject someone just based on their music tastes, it still makes sense to let users share their preferences. Music tastes signify a similar lifestyle. So, just by sharing that you like rock or folk you already tell people about your personality. You are likely to be a part of a particular subculture or adhere to their values or beliefs. So users don’t simply show off, they aim at finding the right people. 

Sharing music preferences is a lot more than just avoiding quarrels about what to listen to in a car. It is about keeping to the same lifestyle. That is why it really makes no sense to try to pretend and copy trendy genres in your preference list. You will definitely get acquainted with someone, but then you won’t be able to live up to the expectations. For example, if you hate opera and classics, telling your potential partner that you like it will only doom you to musical tortures in the future. 

In addition, common music tastes are a good start for a conversation. It is personal and not very personal at the same time. You let a potential partner discover your inner world, still at the same time keeping your deep feelings to yourself until you are ready to share them as well. You can discuss your feelings and experiences related to music. You can recommend new tracks to each other and share links.

Picking a Partner Based on Music Is Gender-specific

Scientists say that men are more prone to care about matching music preferences than women. Female respondents are more willing and ready to tolerate different music tastes. 

Can You Pick a Partner Based Solely on Music Tastes?

For a long-term commitment, the answer is probably “No”. Though music tells a lot about a person, it still can’t be the key factor in a relationship, as experts say. Scientists claim that, contrary to common belief, tastes are secondary when choosing a partner. In reality, you can get easily mistaken if you just let yourself judge a person based on their playlist. The core values of a person play a lot more significant role.

First, you need to identify the type of relationship that you are eager to get. Then, look for a partner who has the values and traits to perform this family role. Only this way you can indeed satisfy your very deep emotional needs. The problem is that bonds based on tastes are too on the surface. While truly deep relationships also mean that you can tolerate the tastes that don’t correlate with yours and let your partners be themselves. 

However, if we compare music tastes to other preferences, such as books, films, or food, music is often considered a lot more intimate subject. So sharing this aspect of your life can become a good, though not only, ground for your long-term relationship. 

What about you? Do you share the love for particular genres with your soulmate?